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On supporting sexism: repeat the nonsense

I know I haven’t written a thing for ages but I felt the need to lay this one out in more than a Storify because… does anyone actually read them?
But here are my favourites:

  • Pockets! They’re sexist. How much stuff have you broken?
  • Trump, misogynists, ‘gamerg*te’, white supremacists – a weird web of misery

Anyway, to the point. We all like our insults, and sometimes we reach for things that are less than ideal. Have got into this previously here & here.

The Storify topics are just 2 examples of sexism – quite far apart on the scale as it goes – but another huge one is rumbling along, the Google memo. Cue a bunch of guys coming forward to defend him because really, female inferiority is just science, right?!? Continue reading

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You need to stop being angry at women who don’t reply to your internet dating site messages

This comes up a lot. Other people have written insightful things about it, so I will link them here.

As background, my profile became quite long and specific over the years I hopped on and off OKCupid. It contains web links. Someone took issue with one of them…

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Double standards in judgement

This makes me very, very angry.

Originally posted via StorifyFavicon for https://storify.com

The victim in the Ched Evans rape case was relocated and given a new identify because people took it upon themselves to judge her a liar, him and his friends heroes because he kicks a ball for lots of money – they harassed her relentlessly.

There’s been a lot of coverage of the #Pistorius trial. A man who shot Reeva Steenkamp through a door in their home, who was feared by her and her loved ones before the act but that’s apparently not relevant.

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Oscar Pistorius would be allowed Paralympic sport return, says IPC

Oscar Pistorius will be allowed to compete in the future after being found guilty of the culpable homicide of his girlfriend. The South African double amputee runner was said to have acted “negligently” when he fired shots through a toilet door, killing Reeva Steenkamp, but in the “belief that there was an intruder”, judge Thokozile Masipa said in her verdict in Pretoria.

#Gamergate sees Zoe Quinn harassed by gamers because her ex saw fit to tell the world she slept with games journalists, and people claimed she “did it for reviews” (and it seems she didn’t – and anyway, personal lives should be just that, no?), covering their blatant misogyny with accusations of “corruption in journalism”.

Originally on Twitter:

Y’know what fucks me off about the likes of Pistorius, Ched Evans et al (apart from their criminal acts & pain they caused): hypocrisy.

Man is convicted of a crime but, Society: “Well he’s paid for it, work & personal life are separate, he has value, let it go”

Woman is accused by ex-lover and random guys of having consensual relationships loosely related to work “OMG CORRUPT BITCH GET LOST”
And people hound women, harass them, until they leave their industry, their career. Because their personal lives are up for public scrutiny.

This sexist, hypocritical bollocks fills me with pure rage. That these pathetic people are listened to when their hateful motivation is clear.

And abusive, dangerous men are let back out into society, back into their positions of power, to reoffend, to hurt more people. Because men.

In all these cases we are told the men deserve due process, reserve judgement, and all too often they are allowed back into their roles in public life, roles that carry responsibility, prestige, huge earnings, opportunities to repeat offend and ruin more lives.

But the women? No, the women can’t be trusted. They’re lying bitches, they had it coming, they can just stop listening to the abuse if it bothers them that much, but these industries aren’t for them anyway.

Can we stop this?


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A South African minister has said the acquittal of athlete Oscar Pistorius of murdering his girlfriend Reeva Steenkamp is “extremely disappointing”. Minister of Basic Education Angie Motshekga told the BBC she thought the judgement was “based on technicalities, not on facts”. Ms Steenkamp’s parents have also said “justice was not served”.BBC

Thumbnail for Ched Evans is a rapist - he does not deserve to waltz back to Sheffield UnitedChed Evans is a rapist – he does not deserve to waltz back to Sheffield United

Does a footballer stop being a footballer when he’s a rapist? That’s the question being bandied around this week in relation to the former Sheffield United player Ched Evans. The 25-year-old sportsman was convicted of rape in April 2012, jailed for five years and is due to rejoin society in October. HOLLY BAXTER

Thumbnail for Misogyny, death threats and a mob of trolls: Inside the dark world of video games with Zoe Quinn - target of #GamerGate - TelegraphMisogyny, death threats and a mob of trolls: Inside the dark world of video games with Zoe Quinn – target of #GamerGate – Telegraph

“The graphic and specific death threats I have received have been terrifying.It’s really just about hurting women, which they have been quite good at. Four women, I think, have withdrawn [from the gaming industry] now saying it’s not worth it.” But trolling women is not what gamers claim that ‘GamerGate’ is all about. RADHIKA SANGHANI


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On the defensive about offence

Some Tweeted thoughts on offence and why some people get very defensive about people pointing out offence – potential or already realised.

Longer thoughts in this post: Offended? Good.

Offended? Good. It’s just an emotion. We can anger people, give joy – and offence. From a little to a hell of a lot.

Not sure people even know what offence means half the time. They hear it and think “pointlessly irritated person!” No…

All emotions have range. We can be happy about a great cup of tea, or a major life achievement.

From sad I dropped my biscuit, to someone has died.

Angry about worldwide abuse of childrens’ rights, down to chipping a favourite mug.

“Offended” does not have to mean screaming in pain.

It can be merely the equivalent of making a face at a bad smell you’ve noticed. Not traumatising. But elicits a slightly negative reaction.

So when someone says “that’s a bit offensive, yeah” – don’t say “omg don’t overreact no it isn’t you’re wrong”. Think about it for a minute.

We can sweat the small stuff if we want – life is a collection of small things. When bad small things pile up on certain people/groups, argh!

Maybe they just mean it’s a simple error, no blame, no rage – easy fix, a little good done in the world; it all adds up. Like the bad stuff does.

So don’t tell people how to feel, or react, just because you can’t possibly imagine finding that smell unpleasant. Trust in other humans.

If one person says something, be sure there are others.

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But don’t assume just because someone points something out that they have ill feeling towards you, assume anything about your overall character or intent, or are inconsolable.

Unless you go on to argue with them pointlessly instead of just making an easy fix/apologising – then they might be well within their right to start assuming.



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Battling sexism

Recently there have been yet more stories centred around sexism and misogyny in our culture. I’d like to discuss two that have interested me this week.

At least they got the apostrophes right..? Via guardian.co.uk

At least they got the apostrophes right..? Via guardian.co.uk

A battle won

Today, thankfully, there has been some Good News! A rarity, it sometimes seems, and something to be celebrated. Congratulations to the Science Museum and everyone who spoke up about Boots separating their children’s toys by gender, and including the sciencey ones only in the boys’ section.

Other retailers have binned this outdated, damaging stereotyping behaviour so, while it’s unfortunate that it’s taken a company like Boots so long, it’s good to see them following suit.

“…It’s clear we have got this signage wrong, and we’re taking immediate steps to remove it from store.” – Boots

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