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I came across your blog through your post on misogyny. I’m a woman. 27. I have a friend who is 28 and he’s a male.
We just had an argument and I called him a misogynist and he took great offence to that and called me unfair and so on. I’ve been thinking about whether I used a word that is too strong for the situation and the person? I’m unsure and in the attempt to clarify that thought I was searching online and came across your blog. My friend is not like you, but I feel like he does show similar traits. I feel I could benefit from a discussion because there are things that I feel confused about in his attitude and I don’t know how to deal with it then. I don’t think I could explain all of it here.
In my opinion the way the term applies to him is not that he hates women, but there is a dislike and mistrust there in him towards women.
I’m not sure really. I don’t want to stick to my guns just because I already said it. I have no issues in going back and apologizing for using a word that’s too strong. I’m just not sure that it is. He displays something that when I first read the meaning of the word made me think of him. I want to find the reason for that and if I can give it a more rational explanation based on experience with him, maybe I can show him why I said what I did and maybe he’ll take me seriously and not just think I’m unfair. Alternatively, maybe I’ll learn that what my friend is displaying is not misogyny.
I’m hoping to discuss this with someone, which is why I’m posting here.
I’d prefer someone like you because I feel like your view would be more balanced than if I asked a woman feminist. Not that woman feminists are biased, that’s not what I mean at all, I could fall under the category of feminist myself and I don’t think I’m biased. But your position and your perspective will probably be very different from mine and I feel that would give me a broader perspective.
I hope you will be willing to discuss this with me. I completely understand that this is a long shot and no one really takes the time out on the internet and so on, but I think it’s worth trying.
So I hope to see a response from you.
You seem to be slightly confused – the post was written by a friend (it’s a guest post), I have directed them to your comment here. It might be better to leave this ^ comment on that post, then more people will provide input hopefully. Alternatively I could give them your email address if you like, but I can’t guarantee a reply! Good luck though. It’s very difficult to a) realise friends have views that are contrary and possibly damaging to you b) confront them about it c) have them agree with you and change their behaviour.
Great blog thanks. Loved the post about bisexuality, too many people don’t understand or think we don’t exist.
Tatler would like to license your photograph of Lord Hunt of Chesterton.
Could you kindly get in touch with me please? ..
Hello. I’m a freelance writer who is writing a piece on reformed misogynists for the Chicago Tribune. Do you think you would be able to put me in touch with your friend Ben who wrote the post about being a reformed misogynist?
I passed on your email, did you manage to get in touch? Thanks!
I’m going to try to delve into more of your stuff. You seem like a genuinely cool person.
As are you!